Back in September, 2009, I laughed until I almost cried when I read a New Your Time’s article “Are your friends making you fat?” (Click this link to read this article if you dare, for it’s a long one! )
I think this article should be mandatory reading for anyone about to consider making a life-long commitment to gain and maintain a healthy weight! It covers all the important aspects of pro-actively creating a healthy, happy space to enjoy better health, one day, one person, one step at a time.
For me, I needed to address my families ancient excuse that “we’re all big boned!” 85% of my biological family is obese! Morbidly obese at that. The stats show how most of my clan die at too early an age from stroke, diabetes, and related lethal outcomes of a life long love affair with denial combined with ignorance!
Strong statements there. I know! I make them based on real-life facts. I’ve held over 500 hands (virtually – through phone support) through my health and wellness program. Folks have retired over 5000 pounds (that’s over 2.5 tons) when they STOPPED denying they had “an issue” and started learning how complex this issue of obesity really is!
To help my family and friends begin to understand how I intended to start living more healthy, I DID what I said I would do! (We’ll cover much of what I do in upcoming posts). The results spoke louder than my words. As family and friends watched me retire over 100 pounds, they went through stages.
Stage two: “Soul, are you sick? You look too skinny?” [People who know you most your life as a fat person often have a hard time believing you can really be a thin person!]
Stage three: “Wow Soul! You’ve kept it off! How cool is that. I wish I could. [Ah, yes, the river of denial is a long and deep one.]
Stage four: “What is that you’re doing to keep healthy?” [After years of skepticism, cracks in denial begin to break open.]
Stage five: For those who love denial, resentment flavors our interactions. The fact I retired my weight years a go is a painful reminder they still have work to do. For those who deal with their weight, we bond like never before!
As you might guess, preparing your family and friends to support your healthy new life make take time and persistence! It’s well worth it! If you need help with this – get help! Hire Peter. Hire me. Hire some one who’s got the professional background to help change HAPPEN.
Now, when I visit family and friends who insist on me eating MORE than I can possible eat, or eat something that’s FAR more deadly than enjoyable, I’ve learned a new response,
“Thanks! Would LOVE to have more! I can’t though. I have an allergic reaction to being fat!”
Good luck with your family and friends! Send them the article above when you’re about to make your move to gain then maintain good health!