Soul’s journey to gain and maintain optimal health

First, how about a little personal intro?

Over the past four decades, my blessings include outstanding health as I travel to over 20 countries studying a wide variety of cultures and creeds.  My health today (as I end my 40’s) is quantum leaps above and beyond my health for most my life.  You see, as a former morbidly obese gay man, I survived poor physical health from childhood to my mid 30’s largely due to the gifts of youth and ignorance.    Ignorance of how most western ways of living are actually a prescription for and early grave.  Over-eating, drinking excessive quantities of sugar-laced beverages, little actual water consumption and related practices balloon my body to just under 300 pounds.

One day, after a powerful meditation just before my 33 birthday, I realized I’d be dead in a in a decade if I didn’t radically, dramatically change just about every part of my life.  My family healthy history documented death well before 65 largely due to stroke, heart attacks and related obesity related health issues.  The awakening I received from that meditation inspired me to buckle-down and get real with myself.

Getting real with myself forms the content you’ll discover in the first 13-part series focused on my physical journey. This series offers insights on what I’ve done from a physical standpoint to retire well over 100 pounds.

Next, we’ll dive into the emotional pool to swim the waters of our minds for a few months.  As we take a swim together (me posting, you reading and commenting) you’ll experience how I enjoy a sense of mental stability that supports my ability to live as a monk with two suitcases of material possessions to my name.

As we conclude our dive into the emotional depths of my journey, I’ll knock on your spiritual door.  Based on what I’ve come to know from my travels and studies, we’ll explore a wide variety of spiritual practices featuring ways to permanently release what no longer serves you as well as invite energy into our lives to enjoy abundance in all healthy ways.

Throughout these posts, I invite you into this journey together – with you –  to advance your awakening process with ease and grace. Click to email me when you’re ready to retire unhealthy habits, weight and stress – once and for all! If you’re curious about what else I do, feel free to connect any time! Call me at 312-268-0000.

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Soul’s Physical Health Journey Part 2 of 13: Preparing – family / friends.

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Back in September, 2009, I laughed until I almost cried when I read a New Your Time’s article “Are your friends making you fat?”  (Click this link to read this article if you dare, for it’s a long one! )

I think this article should be mandatory reading for anyone about to consider making a life-long commitment to gain and maintain a healthy weight!  It covers all the important aspects of pro-actively creating a healthy, happy space to enjoy better health, one day, one person, one step at a time.

For me, I needed to address my families ancient excuse that “we’re all big boned!”  85% of my biological family is obese! Morbidly obese at that.  The stats show how most of my clan die at too early an age from stroke, diabetes, and related lethal outcomes of a life long love affair with denial combined with ignorance!

Strong statements there.  I know!  I make them based on real-life facts. I’ve held over 500 hands (virtually – through phone support) through my health and wellness program.  Folks have retired over 5000 pounds (that’s over 2.5 tons) when they STOPPED denying they had “an issue” and started learning how complex this issue of obesity really is!

To help my family and friends begin to understand how I intended to start living more healthy, I DID what I said I would do!  (We’ll cover much of what I do in upcoming posts).  The results spoke louder than my words.  As family and friends watched me retire over 100 pounds, they went through stages.

choiceStage one:  ‘that’s nice Soul!  You look great!  [wink wink . . . under their breath . . . ‘he’ll get fat again – everyone does!]

Stage two:  “Soul, are you sick?  You look too skinny?”  [People who know you most your life as a fat person often have a hard time believing you can really be a thin person!]

Stage three:  “Wow Soul!  You’ve kept it off!  How cool is that. I wish I could.  [Ah, yes, the river of denial is a long and deep one.]

Stage four:  “What is that you’re doing to keep healthy?”  [After years of skepticism, cracks in denial begin to break open.]

Stage five:  For those who love denial, resentment flavors our interactions.  The fact I retired my weight years a go is a painful reminder they still have work to do.  For those who deal with their weight, we bond like never before!

As you might guess, preparing your family and friends to support your healthy new life make take time and persistence!  It’s well worth it!  If you need help with this – get help!  Hire Peter.  Hire me.  Hire some one who’s got the professional background to help change HAPPEN.

Now, when I visit family and friends who insist on me eating MORE than I can possible eat, or eat something that’s FAR more deadly than enjoyable, I’ve learned a new response,

“Thanks!  Would LOVE to have more! I can’t though.  I have an allergic reaction to being fat!”

Good luck with your family and friends!  Send them the article above when you’re about to make your move to gain then maintain good health!


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Soul’s Physical Health Journey Part 3 of 13: Preparing – professional relationships.

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Do you work in an office of some type?  If you’re self-employed – this applies to you too!  How about all you net-workers out there?  Are you constantly going to social events where you stuff your face with those yummy appetizers not paying attention to the little extra inch that happens a few days later?

Over my professional career, I ballooned to almost 300 pounds, one cocktail party, one networking event at a time.  Events with a buffet always got my RSVP!  (Hey! Food at that time always got my attention!)  While at the event with a buffet, I’d make sure “I got my money’s worth” even if I didn’t pay a dime to attend!)  Buffets are a GREAT social networking tool.  I’d often ask, “Hey- can I get you something” as I warmed-up a potential new client relationship.  I often found myself doing business with those who say, “Ya!  Bring me . . .” and learned to not bother with folks who said “No, thanks!  I’m good!”  (Can we say judgmental here?” LOL)

soWhen the time came that I realized I needed to dramatically change my eating and drinking habits, I new I was in for a difficult time.  Why?  Just about every client I had enjoyed eating and drinking – often to excess.  This was our way of bonding.  I feared loosing clients if I rocked the boat.  It wasn’t until I faced what could have been a life-long love affair with Diabetes, did I wake-up to realize I may need to risk it all!  Now!

So, to help foster in a new way of socializing, I asked my normal drinking and eating clients if they’d mind doing something a little different in a few months.  I told them I’m making changes in my life then, and because I value their friendship, I’d like their help.

WOW!  That really boosted our connection!  Most folks were flattered that I asked them to “come along for the ride.”  When the time came to make adjustments, we first phased out all alcohol.  We then moved to eating at places known to be more healthy.  Finally, we decided to replace eating and drinking meetings with walking and talking activities (weather permitting of course!)  What a DELIGHTFUL change that was!  Our connections grew even stronger!

While it may take a some creativity and persistence to accomplish similar steps in your social circles, it’s well worth the time and effort.  As I talk about in my book, “Pay Me What I’m Worth” in chapter five, social networking is an art form.  Do it well, and your life becomes magical.  Do it poorly, and life rapidly becomes filled with more drama than you’d ever wish for.  For me, drama often invites the desire to medicate with food.   I steer clear of such drama these days.

Now, here’s a challenge for you!  At the office or while out socializing / networking, keep a refillable water bottle nearby or in your hand!  Why?  Well, we’ll talk about that in more detail in a future post.  For now, I invite you to experience the magic of drinking enough purified water on a regular basis!  It works in many ways!


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