Soul’s Physical Health Journey Part 10 of 13: Savoring results.

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I regret I didn’t savor each, “WOW! You look GREAT” or “OH! MY! How wonderful you look!” comment I received while retiring over 100 pounds.

Isn’t it a bit ironic how we often shun compliments yet we allow a criticism to complement our feelings of inadequacy. I wonder if we don’t have things a bit backwards! Instead of deflecting a compliment, we must allow it in – fully. No questions asked. No judgments around any kind word. Just savor such kind attention like we’d savor a steaming cup of soup on a cold, rainy day. On the flip side, any time we receive a criticism, we remind ourselves that there’s always MORE to the story than we’ll ever know, and let the criticism go.

Soul Then & NowThe act of savoring is often an acquired taste. Savoring something invites us to FEEL more than THINK! Savoring something involves ALL the senses. Savoring is best done real-time! (Ever try to savor the refreshing qualities of drinking a glass of chilled water on a hot day, an hour after drinking that glass of water? It’s just NOT the same is it!)

As you gain then maintain a healthy weight, kindly do yourself a HUGE favor! Savor every step of the process. LOVE every minute no matter what. Allow all the compliments you can stand – IN! If ever you experience a set-back of any kind, savor it as well. How? Know that everything has a divine reason of some kind. While that reason may not be readily apparent (if ever) there is a reason someplace. As I trust this notion of divine timing, it allows me to savor life more fully, each and every day!

If you need help in re-awakening your ability to savor – anything – let’s connect. I provide private coaching practice. Send me an email with your request. We’ll set-up a day / time to meet face-to-face via Skype. We’ll savor a few ah-ha’s along with a few hearty laughs!

Now, try to savor something within the next hour – will ya! Let us know what you savored by sharing a comment in the Comment box below.

And THANK you taking the time to read this post. Please share this post with others ehh? Namaste!


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Soul’s Physical Health Journey Part 11 of 13: Re-imaging from the inside out.

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One steamy hot, no-wind Chicago day, I recall walking past a large shop window and wondering, “who’s that guy being reflected back to me. That’s NOT me!!”

I’ll not forget that moment for some time to come, to say the least! That day, I stood there looking at myself from head to toe, NOT recognizing me.  The thin, happy imagine in the window was NOT THE FAT, happy on the outside, miserable on the inside image I carried around in my sleepy, routine-laided “fat mind.”  The shop just happened to be a clothing re-use shop for a local children’s hospital. I spied some shorts I thought would be MUCH cooler to enjoy than the baggy pair of pants I sported that day.

I went in.  Examined the shorts.  Sighed.  “Too small” I thought.  The likelihood of me fitting in a size 32 was laughable.  Yet something inside me said – “SHUT UP!  Try on the shorts.  The worst that’ll happen is you’ll put them back on the rack.”  Okay! Okay!  I tried on the shorts with every intention of mocking myself for being so delusional!

self imageI wandered into the dressing room.  Baggy pants fall off easily you know!  Slipped on the shorts.  Without realizing it, I YELPED like I had just been surprised by a dear old friend materializing outta nowhere!  Actually!  I was surprised by a dear old friend – ME!

MY GAWD!  Those shorts – a bit snug – not too uncomfortable – FIT!

Those shorts FIT!  I could NOT believe it!

I gathered up my baggy pants and did a happy little Snoopy dance all the way to the cashier.  The poor woman at the counter wondered if I had completely gone off (or overdosed) my meds!  When I spotted her concern, I shared my story of retiring over 100 pounds little over six months ago (at that time). I continued to share how I thought I’d NEVER fit  into a size 32 EVER again!

She was amazed to say the least.  She also could stand to retire at least 100 pounds herself.  Do you think she inquired about what I did?  Nope!  I didn’t press the issue.  Everyone is perfect as is – right?  When you’re ready to get healthy – you know it.

From that moment onward, I daily worked at syncing up the image I felt with the image I thought!  Many times, I found myself in complete denial I had accomplished what I did!  Each time my ego wanted to flog me with old stories and images, I’d walk up to my bathroom door’s full-length mirror and observe myself from head to toe.  I gently rewired my internal image to match-up with real-time body.  Granted!  35 years of being morbidly obese imprints an image that’s hard to change. As we all know, ‘change happens’ with every breath we take!

When I begin work with someone who’s goal is to retire 100 pounds or more, I help them retire their inner image as they retire unhealthy weight.   The MORE my clients DO this work, the MORE quickly, safely, naturally retire unhealthy pounds!  Go figure!  Need help?  I’m a phone away!  312-268-0000.


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Soul’s Physical Health Journey Part 13 of 13: Old image – subtle sabotage.

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Over the past 12 posts, I’ve shared a few insights on my success of retiring over 115 pounds (back in 2005).  This final post for this series is also a bridge to our next 13 part adventure featuring what I experienced mentally / emotionally as I witnessed less of me more often.  The bridge we’re about to cross connects two lands.

  1. The old land, my old image that while it seems far away now, once in a while, it feels like a moment ago.
  2. The new land, my current healthy self, sometimes seems foreign when I flash back to ‘the old country.’

One of the more memorable acts I enjoy recalling are the ‘end of the month, get rid of it’ days I created as I retired (on average) 30 pounds each month.  Yes, yes, for some that amount of weight release in that amount of time may seem a bit much.  Rest assured, not only was my body TOTALLY ready to let it go, I could FEEL my health come back on line each and every day.  (I digress, sorry!)

sparkleAt the end of each month, I’d try on every stitch of clothing I had.  If it was too big, it got tossed into the release pile.  I have to admit, while this was GREAT fun, it also involved some sorrow and a few tears.  Tears flowed as I remembered how some pieces were gifts from very dear friends.  How COULD I toss out such a gift. (Couldn’t I get it altered?  Often times, when I tried to have something altered, the results were less than optimal.) Besides, I looked DAMN GOOD in that back in the fat-old-days!  Such reminiscing IS a form of subtle sabotage.  Love, relationships and desire to feel loved are powerful emotions.  These emotions sometimes drown out my healthier inner voice leaving me to listen to external voices who say, “You looked so GREAT back then!  Now, you’re looking rather thin, don’t cha think?”  (Read this post to understand the importance of that last sentence.)

As the old clothes found new homes (often consignment shops to earn back some $$ to afford new stuff), I enjoyed, at times, a bit of a shopping spree. With 20/20 hindsight, I now see how I sabotaged myself with overspending on new clothes!  How?  I wasn’t at goal weight when I bought all that new stuff! (Sort of like the opposite of buying clothes for child! They say kids out-grow their clothes so quickly sometimes, the clothes barely get worn!)  For me, after about four months, I quickly discovered I spent WAY too much money on new, nice-fitting (for the moment) clothes.  (I wish I had the nerve to return things.  After wearing them more than twice, ethically, I just can’t bring myself to return something.) Part of my sadness of having to buy yet MORE new clothes resulted in a desire to STOP retiring weight!  Why?  I wanted to ‘get my money’s worth’ out of those clothes!  WRONG!  Had to bite the bullet and just wear really baggy clothes for a while!!

While there’s oceans of old-image sabotage stories to share, I highly encourage everyone to allow those stories to fade much like a pair of blue jeans after a few bleach washes.  Keeping such stories alive (by retelling them) is, yes, you guessed it!  Subtle sabotage.

As I wrap up this first series, please know I bow in gratitude for your time and interest.  Kindly do leave your comments below.  And by all means, I’d enjoy working with you should you (or someone you know) need support in gaining then maintaining a healthy weight.  For more details about my program, click this link.

And now!  Get ready for a 13 part series featuring a swim in the emotional pond!  Over the next few weeks, you’ll swim from the shallow to the deep end as I share insights on what I experienced emotionally as I retired over 115 pounds.  Stay tuned!  Click to connect directly if you’d like! Your comments and direct emails are GREAT no-calorie treats for my soul!


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